People mean well (usually), but sometimes well wishers choose the worst possible things to say after a death. So many of the commonly used platitudes aimed at providing comfort actually have the opposite effect by minimizing a person’s grief. Please allow me to literally illustrate my point for all you non-believers.
1. “Don’t cry” or ” You have to be strong now”.
2. “God never gives us more than we can handle.
3. She’s in a better place now.
4. “At least he lived a long life.”
5. “It was God’s will.” or “God has a plan.”
It’s no wonder grievers sometimes learn to brace themselves whenever they see a sympathetic head-tilt approaching. For those hoping to support a grieving friend or family member, we have a ton of advice on offering thoughtful support here. We’ve also create an eGuide for supporting a griever which you can find in the What’s Your Grief Store.
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