Although Litsa and I are different in many ways, one thing we've always had in common is a love of photography. We've written quite a lot on using photography to cope with grief, and we advocate that anyone with even the slightest creative inclination gives it a try.
We especially love using photography as a tool for exploring and expressing grief because we think it's an intuitive, versatile, and accessible medium. However, we believe it can help use any creative expression as a coping tool for grief. Whether you're a writer, poet, lyricist, or painter, as the song goes, express yourself.
There are many interesting links between creativity and experiences like hardship, physical illness, and psychological disorder. Links that psychologists and researchers may not fully understand yet have been aware of for some time.
For example, back in the early twentieth century, Sigmund Freud and his daughter Anna Freud discussed the defense mechanism sublimation. Very simply, sublimation occurs when a person channels their unpleasant emotions, urges, and anxieties in socially acceptable, positive, and beneficial ways. They identified artistic expression as one such positive and appropriate channel.
The link between creativity and adverse life experiences continues to be of interest to psychologists today. As one researcher, Marie Forgeard (2013) notes, "...the unique life experiences often reported by highly creative individuals suggest that adversity may have played a critical role in fostering their creativity, and that increased creativity could therefore constitute a manifestation of Post Traumatic Growth." Forgeard's research and the research of many others have revealed a connection between adverse life experiences and perceived creative growth.
Many psychologists believe that one of the links between hardship and creativity is nondysphoric deliberate rumination. In this context, 'nondysphoric' means that the rumination is not solely focused on one's negative emotional states and 'deliberate' means intentional and voluntary efforts to think about the event, its implications, and its meaning. Among other things, thinking about experiences in this way may help individuals to make connections, identify analogies, understand others, and identify creative solutions to their problems.
Another interesting link identified by researchers observes there are increased rates of early parental loss among some highly accomplished creative individuals. Researchers hypothesize that an early parental loss may have led these individuals to experience social isolation, alienation, or rejection in childhood. The experience of feeling different may have forced (or encouraged) the person to "step outside of social convention" and to see the world differently than their peers. (Forgeard, 2013)
So, do creative individuals just know how to channel their experiences into art? Or do adverse experiences lead to increased creativity? Maybe the answer is both, and perhaps it doesn't matter which comes first for our purposes.
What matters here is that creative outlets can be extremely healing for people who are coping with grief. We could give you dozens of reasons, but here are our favorite three:
Creative expression is engaging
Positive Psychologist Martin Seligman suggests that one of the five core elements of psychological well-being is engagement. Engagement refers to participating in activities that you enjoy and which challenge and excite you. You may find that when you engage in these activities, you feel fully present, immersed, and that time seems to fly by.
We love this concept because it gives you a reason to do the things you love. Of course, the activities you find engaging depend entirely upon your unique preferences, but many people find creative outlets (both new and old) very engaging.
Creativity can lead to creative problem solving
When faced with problems and hardship, people often find themselves boxed in by perceived limitations and barriers. In these instances, creative thinking can be useful because it helps a person to think outside the box, make new connections, identify coping skills, search for new solutions, and make meaning out of their experiences.
Creativity fosters communication and connection
Creative expression can give a voice to people who struggle to put words to their experiences. For example, photography allows a person to reach across the void and say, "Here, let me show you." In this way, two people can still connect through art and shared experiences without even talking. Also, even though creating art is usually a solo endeavor, people can connect over their shared artistic interests through clubs, projects, communities, and classes.
I think it's worth noting that creative people often wind up feeling completely blocked after experiencing a loss or other hardship. A person may believe that creativity used to be a reliable coping tool, but now they feel uninspired and disconnected.
If you feel this way, first of all, you're not alone. Lack of interest in previously pleasurable activities is a common response to loss for many reasons. If your interest in a particular creative outlet has waned for a long time and if you find this troubling, one of our first suggestions is just to force yourself to do it anyway. That said, I realize this might not be an appealing suggestion for many people, so here are two different articles on getting your creative mojo back after experiencing a loss.
- Reconnecting with your Passions: Getting Over the Meh's
- Grief and Creative Block: Getting your groove back
Tell us about your experience using creativity to cope with grief in the comments.
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