64 Children's Books About Death and Grief
64 Things : Litsa Williams
/When grief hits a family, children often become the focus: how to talk to them about death; how to recognize if they are grieving 'normally'; how to create open communication and dialogue; etc. When we ask adults what they need in their grief, often their first response is what they need for their children. We have number of articles on WYG offering this type of support:
- Childhood Grief: The Influence of Age On Understanding
- Grief Activity Books for Kids 3-9
- Graffiti Wall: A Grief Activity for Kids
- A Thanksgiving Grief Activity for Kids (and Grown-Ups)
- In Memory Robin Williams: How to Talk With Kids About Suicide
- After a Suicide Death: An Activity Book for Grieving Kids
- Remembering Ornament: A Holiday Grief Activity for Kids & Teens
- Grief and Easter: Remembering Loved Ones
We also have an article reminding you why it is important to take care of yourself in order to better care for the children in your life. But one thing that we don't have is a list of kids books about death and grief, despite the fact that we get asked about this fairly often.
We have talked about journals, activity books, and workbooks for kids, but sometimes a story is the best way to open a dialogue. Often reading a story can help kids know they are not alone and normalize what they are experiencing. It can offer a safe way to open a dialogue with children about death and grief, in groups, as a family, or one-on-one. So today, here it is! We have a list of 64 children's books about grief. As with all of our '64 Things' lists, this is not an exhaustive list... So please add your favorites in the comments.
Note: These books are primarily for the 10 and under crowd but, rest assured, a list of 64 Young Adult Novels about Grief is on the horizon.
1. Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children (5+)
2.The Invisible String (3+)
3. Everett Anderson's Goodbye (Reading Rainbow) (5-8)
4. The Tenth Good Thing About Barney (6-9)
5. I'll Always Love You (3-7)
6. When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death (Dino Life Guides for Families) (4-8)
7. I Miss You: A First Look at Death (First Look at Books) (4+)
8. The Saddest Time (6-9)
9. Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss (8+)
10. The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages (4+)
11. Gentle Willow: A Story for Children About Dying (4+)
12. Where Are You? A Child's Book About Loss (4-8)
13. Samantha Jane's Missing Smile: A Story About Coping With the Loss of a Parent (5+)
14. The Scar (5-9)
15. A Terrible Thing Happened (4+)
16. The Elephant in the Room: A Childrens Book for Grief and Loss (4+)
17. The Boy Who Didn't Want to Be Sad (4+)
18. I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand...: A Child's Guide to Grief and Loss (Little Imp Books) (9+)
19. Water Bugs and Dragonflies: Explaining Death to Young Children (4+)
20. When Your Grandparent Dies: A Child's Guide to Good Grief (Elf-Help Books for Kids) (5+)
21. Someone I Love Died (4-8)
22. What Happened When Grandma Died? (4+)
23. Always and Forever (4+)
24. Badger's Parting Gifts (4-8)
25. Ghost Wings (5+)
26. Finding Grandpa Everywhere: A Young Child Discovers Memories of a Grandparent (7+)
27. The Grandpa Tree (3+)
28. Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss (Elf-Help Books for Kids) (6+)
29. Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs (Picture Puffins) (4-8)
30. Daddy, Up and Down: Sisters Grieve the Loss of Their Daddy (4-8)
31. Saying Goodbye to Daddy (4+)
32. The Angel with the Golden Glow: A Family's Journey Through Loss and Healing (4+)
33. Where's Jess: For Children Who Have a Brother or Sister Die (3-6)
34. A Taste of Blackberries (8-12)
35. Bridge to Terabithia (8-12)
36. My Grandson Lew (4-6)
37. Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope: A Read Aloud Story for People of All Ages About Loving and Losing, Friendship and Hope (All Ages!)
38. The Empty Place: A Child's Guide Through Grief (Let's Talk) (5-10)
39. Dancing on the Moon (3+)
40. Lost and Found: Remembering a Sister (6+)
41. Stacy Had a Little Sister (A Concept Book) (4+)
42. Ragtail Remembers: A Story That Helps Children Understand Feelings of Grief (4+)
43. Goodbye Mousie (4-8)
44. Remembering Crystal (3+)
45. Rudi's Pond (5-8)
46. The Memory String (4-8)
47. Sammy in the Sky (4-8)
48. Where Do People Go When They Die? (3-8)
49. Chester Raccoon and the Acorn Full of Memories (3-8)
50. Her Mother's Face (4-8)
51. Remembering Mama (4+)
52. Old Pig (Picture Puffin) (3-8)
53. Pearl's Marigolds for Grandpa (3-7)
54. Saying Goodbye to Lulu (3-6)
55. The Mountains of Tibet (7+)
56. Rabbityness (3-7)
57. I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand...: A Child's Guide to Grief and Loss (Little Imp Books) (9+)
58. Can You Hear Me Smiling?: A Child Grieves a Sister (8+)
59. The Copper Tree (5-8)
60. Everybody Feels Sad (4+)
61. Grief is Like a Snowflake (4+)
62. My Baby Big Sister: A Book for Children Born Subsequent to a Pregnancy Loss (4-8)
63. Ladder to the Moon (4-8)
64. Missing Mommy: A Book About Bereavement (3-8).
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Jeanne Whitney September 8, 2022 at 5:59 pm
After losing my son in a car accident, while writing the obituary, I had a metaphor come to mind which helped me picture the situation he might find himself in now. Since I am a writer/illustrator I wrote this little book called A Seed Story or the Curious Odyssey of Cisco the Seed. In it the seeds do everything they can to avoid growing. They whisper about the terrors of the dangerous Above. But inevitably Cisco stretches out and the story follows his meandering to the surface where he finds his lost friend and they laugh and laugh in the Sun’s shine. Picturing my child in a joyous place helped me say, “if he is OK, I will be OK.” (available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.)
Ruthanne August 23, 2022 at 12:07 pm
I agree with every factor that you have pointed out. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts on this.
Judith Zeilenga March 4, 2021 at 4:56 am
I have written a children’s book about a young girl losing her grandfather to terminal cancer when she is a toddler. While he is anticipating her birth he embarks on a mission to ensure she will always remember him by creating a “forever” treasure for her. “Periwinkle’s Chair” is a heart warming story that tackles the delicate subject of losing a loved one in a way that doesn’t feel heavy. It is about love, healing and transformation. It is available on Amazon worldwide. “Periwinkle’s Chair” by Judith Zeilenga. See more about this story at judithzeilenga.com
Joanne Glantz June 22, 2020 at 9:27 pm
I am trying to find a childs book on grief… It had the words “a fable” after the title. It was a little white hardcover book and may have been written by a Mormon mom.. I think it was controversial at first. But it likens death to being in school and graduating from class to class.. It was beautiful.. Anyone ?????
Alec Gould May 19, 2020 at 11:47 am
My most recent book, “Ted-D’s Happy, Sad, Birthday, Day” is for sale on Amazon. It is a beautiful story about a teddy bear who is having a tough time on his birthday. Why? Because this is his first birthday since his grandparents died. Wonderfully illustrated so those who do not read yet can still enjoy following the pictures.
This book allows the child to ask questions in which the adult can answer based upon their own beliefs.
Yes, there is a kitty cat involved 🙂
Techumble March 12, 2020 at 2:42 pm
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geometry dash February 14, 2020 at 1:42 am
Great books and meanings for children.
Donna Deardorff February 13, 2020 at 7:45 am
My grandson died and left behind a very smart son he is now going to be 5.
Jennifer Zwick January 23, 2020 at 12:55 pm
Boats for Papa (by Jessixa Bagley) is one of the best books ever written (and illustrated)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22718714-boats-for-papa
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Willow brings grief and grief Green grass in the cold moon Frost is frozen like ice Knowing when the new rain will gradually stop.
Tom brady October 4, 2019 at 4:35 am
I found your post very helpful. Please keep your list of books going dealing with this issue. Here is a list of some really good ones on death as well .
Morgan August 24, 2019 at 8:31 pm
Does anyone know the book where one twin dies in a car accident. She’s driving with her grandpa and a big 18-wheeler hits them and kills her. The other twin is really sad and they sit in the waiting room forever and then the doctor comes out and is like “I’m sorry”. I remember a lot of details about it but don’t remember the name. It really helped me with the loss of my brother when I was younger and I would like to find it again.
Lisa Iannucci May 15, 2019 at 1:31 pm
My Favorite Star!!! Kids 2-10. It targets passing if all ages and even pets too!
Christina Kann May 7, 2019 at 10:00 am
Another good option is “The Great Big Ark in the Sky” by Liz Ballard Hamm & Andrew Ballard https://amzn.to/2VQGj2A
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Meera Sriram January 18, 2019 at 2:44 pm
Hi,
This is a GREAT post and list! I’m a children’a author and my upcoming picture book titled, “The Yellow Suitcase” attempts to flesh out the universal experience of loss, love, and home. You can read more about it here: https://www.amazon.com/Yellow-Suitcase-Meera-Sriram/dp/0999658417 or on my website. I would be very appreciative if you could add it to your list and give one more book to explore for caregivers, educators, and children. Thank you!
Chas Vanden November 16, 2018 at 8:22 pm
As a parent of two daughters who have lost their father and also as a funeral director, I have researched and read endless grief books for children. “A New Leash on Life: A remedy for healing after loss” by Donna Kutzner is by far the best I have read, (and my children have come leaps and bounds after reading it). It is a story that also has small workbook parts children can complete. Again, highly recommended!!
Mirella November 22, 2018 at 8:51 am
Hi, I looked up this book and could not find it. Will you please let me know where you purchased it. Thank you!
Norman Leaver January 14, 2019 at 5:13 am
You will find it here: https://donnakutzner.com
Joshua August 7, 2018 at 1:34 pm
Another great book is Storm of Joy by Sherri Sengsouvanna! It’s a great read for children and adults alike and its even based on a true story. https://sherrisengsouvanna.com/storm-of-joy/
Tayler Rinehart July 24, 2018 at 1:07 pm
A true story of love and loss … Sometimes there is nothing more that can be done for our loved ones battling illness. In this beautiful book, Goodbye Horse, horse and companion discover the true meaning of their relationship, the strength to fight the battle, and the heartbreak and pain of letting go.
Sara May 4, 2018 at 10:16 am
I am looking for a book for a 10 year old on the death of both parents. Does anyone have suggestions?
Most books are about the death one only one parent.
Sara May 4, 2018 at 10:16 am
I am looking for a book for a 10 year old on the death of both parents. Does anyone have suggestions?
Most books are about the death one only one parent.
Chasidy Schmidt May 21, 2019 at 9:12 pm
A New Leash on Life: A Remedy for Healing After Loss
It is a beautiful children’s workbook and story on overcoming grief and loss.
http://www.donnakutzner.com
Heidi Wolf April 12, 2018 at 6:17 pm
adding another “Stay- a girl, a Dog and a Bucket List” the death of the young girls best friend is implied at the end, but its a beautifully written and illustrated book!
Heidi Wolf April 12, 2018 at 6:17 pm
adding another “Stay- a girl, a Dog and a Bucket List” the death of the young girls best friend is implied at the end, but its a beautifully written and illustrated book!
Angie bradley April 3, 2018 at 7:44 pm
“I wonder what you do on your first day in heaven” by phoebe welsh is a great open ended, simple book about “a child” the gets sick and dies and simply asks questions about what heaven is like. And beautifully illustrated!
Angie bradley April 3, 2018 at 7:44 pm
“I wonder what you do on your first day in heaven” by phoebe welsh is a great open ended, simple book about “a child” the gets sick and dies and simply asks questions about what heaven is like. And beautifully illustrated!
Peggy Pollock February 26, 2018 at 10:37 am
I’m looking for one I read to my girls years ago. Very plain cover and can’t remember the title or author. It was about a seashore animal that left it’s shell behind and moved to a new one, but it related it to people leaving their “shell” behind but the real them still living on. I would love to find this book again. Thanks!
Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FT, DCC February 26, 2018 at 11:06 am
I don’t know the book you’re thinking of, but you may find this article helpful: Using Story to Explain Pet Loss to Children, http://j.mp/2HN8iq9
Peggy Pollock February 26, 2018 at 10:37 am
I’m looking for one I read to my girls years ago. Very plain cover and can’t remember the title or author. It was about a seashore animal that left it’s shell behind and moved to a new one, but it related it to people leaving their “shell” behind but the real them still living on. I would love to find this book again. Thanks!
Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FT, DCC February 26, 2018 at 11:06 am
I don’t know the book you’re thinking of, but you may find this article helpful: Using Story to Explain Pet Loss to Children, https://j.mp/2HN8iq9
Tara October 26, 2019 at 3:01 pm
House for Hermit Crab, Eric Carle.
https://youtu.be/7cYgxknuDmc
Jennifer Kozich January 23, 2018 at 3:59 pm
Please check out Grandma’s Wings, a book which discusses the topic of a child grieving for a grand parent that they never got the chance to meet. A very heartwarming story. Grandmaswings.com
Jennifer Kozich January 23, 2018 at 3:59 pm
Please check out Grandma’s Wings, a book which discusses the topic of a child grieving for a grand parent that they never got the chance to meet. A very heartwarming story. Grandmaswings.com
Leslie Anne Perry October 10, 2016 at 7:19 am
I would like to suggest ANNE AT NINE, a fictionalized story about the death of my father from cancer at age 37. Recommended for children age seven through nine, the paperback is $3.99 and the Kindle e-book is $.99: https://www.amazon.com/Anne-at-Nine-Leslie-Perry/dp/1539002659/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Sonja August 7, 2016 at 1:35 am
There’s a beautifully illustrated book out called “Ida Always” by Carol Levis. It’s a real life story about Ida and Gus, two polar bears in Central Park. Ida got sick and died and we see how Gus dealt with her illness and death. It’s sensitively written and the illustrations are gorgeous. I bought a copy for each of my grandchildren towards the end of my husband’s (their “Opa”) life recently. After he died, my granddaughter (7) called me one night on Face Time and said, “Oma, I’m going to read you a story” and proceeded to read “Ida Always” to me. “We have good memories of Opa, just like Gus did with Ida,” she said! I’m going to get my own copy of the book too!
Rea Ginsberg August 7, 2016 at 1:09 pm
Sounds like a very good book, Sonja!! I will look for it. If the children themselves like it so much, it must be worth having! Thanks! — And very best to you as you make your way thru grieving, back to a new and higher level of life balance.
Christy Weeks August 3, 2016 at 11:00 pm
WHY are there so few books for teens?? We are opening a Grief Center in our community and resources for this age (12 and up) is hard to find. I’m referring for reading material for them NOT about them. There are an abundance of books to choose from for young children.
Eleanor August 3, 2016 at 11:44 pm
Hey Christy,
You’re right, there are far fewer books written for teenagers about grief than there are children’s books. The younger teen years are really the gap in my mind, as older teenagers grieve in many of the same ways that adults do. We do have a post that discusses a few books for teens that you can read here. There are far fewer on this list (six). My go-to recommendation is always the Chill and Spill journal from Art with Heart for any teen who might be open to journaling/art-journaling. I’ll also point out that there are quite a few young adult novels that tackle topics like the death of a family member or friend.
Beyond that I would recommend opening your resource list up to include online resources. Websites and blogs may appeal to teens for obvious reasons and there are a few sites geared specifically towards teenagers. You should check out these sites in particular Hello Grief; Slap’d; Too Damn Young; The Dougy Center
Good luck!
Eleanor
Kacy April 11, 2016 at 4:49 pm
I haven’t had a chance to read a lot of these books only a few but I absolutely loved The Invisible String, it really did help my best friend to explain to her daughter about the lost of her friend and how they are always connected and loved. Please keep your list of books going dealing with this issue. Here is a list of some really good ones on death as well https://www.bestchildrensbooksreviews.com/5-best-childrens-books-about-death-that-kids-will-understand/
Juztice April 3, 2016 at 8:04 pm
Her Mother’s Face ~ Roddy Doyle
I purchased this last week for my 9 year old niece who lost her mammy (my sister) four weeks ago.
It was only £2.99 and the best money I have ever spent. It’s age appropriate, beautifully written with Roddy Doyle’s wit shining through too and the illustrations are fab.
Manette February 4, 2016 at 10:26 am
Oh man, Bridge to Terabithia! I first read that book in elementary school for a class (before my friend died) and it had no effect on me. I reread it in high school, after the death of my friend and I was an emotional wreck. I started crying even before the “big bad” happens (don’t want to spoil in case anyone hasn’t read it yet). Now I cry every time I read it. It’s amazing what a new context can do to a person.
Kristina January 27, 2016 at 2:05 pm
Thanks so much for the post. There’s also a brand new Christian grief series for kids … the first book is called Emily Lost Someone She Loved. http://www.kathleenfucciministries.org/emily.
Colleen Bonadonna January 11, 2016 at 12:28 pm
Good Grief, a Child’s Grieving Process by Chad Bonadonna (my son) is targeted to elementary children. All proceeds go to KidzNGrief, a bereavement program in Virginia. Where he particpated after the death of his father and now is a facilitator.
Marvin Petsel CT June 4, 2015 at 6:30 pm
Thanks for putting this list on the web. I am sure it will be very helpful to many. I would like my wife’s book considered as well. It is called “Remembering Grandma’s Hugs.”
It can be found at http://www.embers4growth.com
Teresa TL Bruce March 7, 2015 at 1:22 pm
Thanks for providing this list of grief-related books for children. Kids’ grief is sometimes overlooked. I remember how much it meant to my daughters when my mother’s hospice nurse gave them a book of their own after their grandma died. Reading it (over and over) wasn’t easy for me, but it was healing for them.
(I’ve added a link to this post on my resources page: https://tealashes.com/other-helpful-resources/)
Marty Tousley (@GriefHealing) March 6, 2015 at 11:01 pm
I’ve added a link to your list at the base of my own post on a similar topic, Litsa: “Using Children’s Books to Help With Grief,” https://bit.ly/w4PFMh ♥
Teana Tache November 16, 2016 at 2:59 pm
Thank you for this amazing list of books to assist children through the grieving process. If it is ok, I too would like to add a link to your list. http://www.foureverafter.com
Rea March 5, 2015 at 11:21 pm
The Little Prince (kids ~8+)