Archive for Your Evolving Relationship With Grief

Finding Comfort in Grief through Connection and Co-Destiny

The year after my mother's death, I lived mostly an "in spite of" life. I got up and went to…
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When Feeling Okay Feels Wrong

I look at grief as more of a frienemy than anything else. To be honest, it's been this way since…
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“Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything." - CS Lewis

After 12 Years, My Mother is Still Everywhere

My mother died twelve years ago on October 23rd and, though my actual memories of the days and weeks that…
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The Uninvited Guest: Making Room for Grief

"Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I…
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Grief is Love

What is grief in relation to love? Quite often I think they're the same thing. When people think of love…
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Grief and Regrief (aka growing up with a grief monster)

So there‘s this thing called grief.  You’ve probably heard of it.  You probably wish you hadn’t heard of it.  There…
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possibility in grief

“Maybe, Someday”: Staying Open to Possibility

It's disgusting out today. Yesterday I sat at my window and watched charming white snowflakes fall gently from the sky...…
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The Truth about Posttraumatic Growth After Loss

Litsa and I have long had a bee in our bonnet over the rhetoric around grief self-help.  Not all grief…
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Life With a Grief Monster

Life with a Grief Monster

This is my grief monster. He was born the day my mother died. I was really frightened of him at first…
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