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In our last post, we discussed the overwhelming task of going through your loved ones' belongings. Once you have determined the items to keep, knowing what to do with the remaining 'Give Away' pile can be difficult. If you are donating things that belonged to your loved one you want them to go to a good cause. If you are selling them, you want to get as much value as possible. But where do you even begin?! Here are a couple of suggestions to get you started.
There are two logical options in trying to sell items that belonged to your loved one: do it yourself or pay someone to do it for you. Though there will be an expense with the latter, the ease of it may be worthwhile. As discussed in our last post, this can be an emotional and overwhelming process, so hiring a company may relieve some stress. There are several options if you chose to hire someone.
Estate Sale Companies
If you are looking for ease, this is a great way to go. These companies don’t want you to throw anything away so there is no pressure. They know what is valuable, what isn’t, and will come into the home and go through everything and make a plan to sell or auction all the items of value. These companies don't even want you to try to clean up your old items, as that can actually hurt the value. They will organize, take care of the sale or auction, and (in some cases) assist with the removal of the trash. They charge a fee, which is a percentage of the amount made in selling the items and can range from 10%-30%.
You may be wondering why to not just have a garage sale/yard sale, where you get to keep all the profits. This is certainly another option, but this can be labor-intensive and if you don’t know the value of the items you may end up selling things of value for far less than they are worth. Though you do need to find an estate sale company you trust, one major advantage is that they know how much things are worth and are invested in selling them at a good price. Try to get a reference or check online reviews to ensure you are working with a reputable company.
With the wonders of the internet, there are now many companies out there that will sell your belonging on eBay for you, for a fee of course. Many of these companies require you to drop off items, but some will come and pick items up. Like an estate sale, these companies can take a lot of stress off you by taking care of the sale. You will want to make sure you are using a reputable company.
It may be the case that going through, sorting, and selling items has been a great way to channel your energy. In other cases financially you may need to sell items yourself to make a greater profit. If selling items yourself seems appealing there are plenty of options. A good old-fashioned yard sale or garage sale is a good option, though you may get less than your items are worth. Make sure to do some research in advance so you can as a fair price. You can also sell items yourself online – eBay is the go-to for online auctions and has a low fee. Craigslist is a great, free option to find local buyers so you don’t have to worry about shipping. You also may be able to take higher-end clothing, jewelry, shoes, and furniture to a consignment shop to sell.
If your loved one had a unique collection, specialty tools, or other unusual items it will likely make sense to bring in an expert. My dad, for example, was a rare coin dealer who owned his own business. When he died we were left with many coins and had no idea what they were worth. We asked a trusted colleague of my dad's to help us gauge the value and sell the items. This can be a good idea for any specialty item you don't know the value of. If a friend who is an expert in that area is able to offer support this is an important place to ask for help. Otherwise, pay an expert - it will be worth it to know the accurate value.
Donating Items: Clothes
Once you have determined which items you will keep and sell there may be a number of items that will be appropriate to donate. If you are looking for places to donate specific items consider some of the following organizations:
Clothing: Home Pick-Up
There are so many places that accept clothing donations, and in times of grief, convenience is a big factor. Goodwill, Salvation Army, Purple Heart, and AmVets all will schedule a home pick-up. One factor to consider with all these charities is that the clothing goes to fund the good work they do by selling the clothing in either their own stores or to other thrift stores. The clothing is not given directly to those in need. They still do wonderful work with the funds raised, but it is a consideration.
Clothing to Those Directly in Need
If you are looking for a place to donate clothing items where the clothing will go directly to those in need consider a local homeless shelter or domestic violence shelter. Some Department of Social Services offices also accept clothing donations which are given directly to those in need - call your local DSS to see if they accept donations. Consider looking for a local House of Ruth, YWCA shelter, YMCA shelter, Salvation Army Shelter, or other private shelters to drop of donations. Finally, some churches operate clothing closets for those in need and may accept donations tha will go directly to those in need.
Professional Attire: Dress for Success
Dress for Success is an outstanding program that gives women in need professional clothing to wear for job interviews and if they obtain a job that requires professional attire they cannot afford. Dress for success is an international organization that is a great place to donate any professional clothing in good condition. Find your local Dress for Success here.
Clothing Donation Box Warning
Beware of clothing donation boxes that are popping up in many store parking lots and other areas. Though they are an easy way to get rid of clothing, some are for-profit or practice questionable business ethics. Some have been found to sell the clothing and only give a very small percentage to charity. Do your research and make sure you are comfortable with the organization before donating. That being said, when you are grieving, sometimes convenience comes above all else. If you just need to get rid of those items and dumping them in the closest donation box is all you are up for, it is certainly a quick and easy way to get those items out of your home and also out of a landfill.
Donating Items: Books
It is getting harder and harder to find places to donate books, but programs are definitely out there. Goodwill and Salvation Army (websites above in clothing section) both accept books to be sold in their stores, the proceeds of which support their programming.
Books through Bars
Books through Bars is a non-profit that provides books to prisoners. If you don't live in Philadelphia, where they are based, you can ship your books to them (You pay shipping. Media Mail is typically the cheapest way to send books). They request that you call them to ensure they can use your books before you ship them. Find information here.
Books to Prisoners
As its name suggests, Books to Prisoners also provides books to prisoners. They have been in operation since 1973. They provide information on their site about shipping books to them (Again, you pay for shipping. Media Mail is the way to go).
Books for Africa
This non-profit ships books to Africa from the US to promote literacy in African countries. Their mission is, “to end the book famine in Africa. With your help, we will help create a culture of literacy and provide the tools of empowerment to the next generation of parents, teachers, and leaders in Africa.” Information on shipping can be found on their site. There is also the option to make donations to specific programs running in different African countries. Check out donation details on their website.
Discover Books is a “for-profit organization with a social mission”. They took over the services formerly provided by the non-profit Reading Tree. This organization donates books to literacy and community organizations, libraries, and non-profit organizations. Books that are unable to be used are recycled, to ensure they do not end up in a landfill. They have donation drop boxes with a locator on their website.
Your Local Library
Many local libraries have book sales that raise funds for the library. They sell both old library books and often accept donations of books to be sold. This is a great way to know the books will go to use, while also supporting your local library. Call your library to see if they accept donations. They also may be aware of local literacy organizations that accept donations in your area. Find your local library using this public library locator.
Donating Items: Furniture
Furniture donations can be made through Goodwill, AmVets and the Salvation Army (websites above under clothing donations). The furniture will be sold in their stores to fund their many outreach programs. Keep in mind they have restrictions on the types of furniture they'll accept. Check their website or call before scheduling a pick-up. If you would like to donate your furniture directly to someone in need, check with your area Department of Social Services office or homeless shelter. These places often help those in need of furniture to be connected with individuals who are donating furniture.
Donating Items: Electronics
Before donating your loved one's electronics, make sure all information has been cleared from the hard drives. A quick google search will provide information on how to clear the hard drive. This is also a good place to reach out to a friend with some computer know-how for support. The EPA has information about where you can donate or recycle your electronics. This locator can be found here.
Ensuring Ethical Charities
Though we would love it if all charities were reputable, that simply isn’t the case. Thankfully there is a great website to verify that charities are ethical organizations. Charity Navigator’s goal “is to help people give to charity with confidence. At the same time, we aim to help charities by shining lights on truly effective organizations.” Check out their website here.
Disposing of Household Items: Cleaning Products, Chemicals, and Medication
When overwhelmed with so many items it is often tempting to just throw these items in the trash. Keep in mind that all these items have an impact on our environment if they are not disposed of properly. Visit https://earth911.org to get more information about disposing of these items and locating drop off locations in your area. For more information on disposing of medications visit the FDA website for details here.
There are many great organizations out there that will give your loved one's belongings a good new home. Take things one day at a time. If you have any company or organization suggestions please leave a comment below to let us know.
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