The Need for Self-Compassion in Grief
Imagine you’re talking to a close friend who is grieving and she tells you she’s frustrated because she doesn’t think …
Read MoreI Am Still Your Daughter…You are Still my Mother
I am still your daughter and, though I often feel motherless, you are still my mother. Our here-on-earth connection has …
Read MoreWhat it Means to ‘Change Your Relationship With Grief’
There are things that you get over in life. For example a cold, your first breakup, or an argument with …
Read MoreI Don’t Want to Talk About It: Coping with Grief Without Saying a Word
I may be betraying my trade as a mental health professional to admit that, personally, I’m not much for counseling …
Read MoreWhat’s Your Memory? Remembering Everyday Moments
What are your memories of your loved one like? I suppose that’s a personal question, you don’t have to answer …
Read More64 Examples of Disenfranchised Grief
Disenfranchised grief is a term that was coined by one of our favorite grief researchers, Ken Doka, about twenty years …
Read MoreThanks For The Offer, But I Don’t Know What I Need!
We’ve all heard it before, from the well-meaning, tilted-head friends at the funeral and in the weeks to follow: “Let …
Read MoreGrief and Oral History: keeping memories alive
Almost every time I delete a voicemail from someone I love I have a thought that some might consider morbid: …
Read MoreWhen Feeling Okay Feels Wrong
I look at grief as more of a frienemy than anything else. To be honest, it’s been this way since …
Read MoreWhat is ‘Found Family’?
This morning we held a workshop on coping with loss. I know, it’s a very broad topic, but we planned …
Read MoreA Grief Concept You Should Care About: Continuing Bonds
I’ve always thought of continuing bonds as an ‘a-ha’ grief concept. As in… “A-ha! That makes so much sense.” “A-ha! …
Read MoreThis Is What Social Isolation Looks Like
It’s winter. It’s cold. It’s dark. I’ve been socially isolating. There, I said it. I’m guessing I might not be …
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