This essay is a part of WYG's PhotoGrief project. The goal of the PhotoGrief project is to create a space where people can explore and express their grief through pictures. Learn more about the project here.
By Bob Kovach
I lost my wife Meg to cancer about a year and a half ago.
When she first passed I had the painful task of going through her personal belongings. I never had a reason to go through her purse before but I had to find the usual things you need to find when filing paperwork. I did what I had to do and put it back in a drawer where it sat for more than a year.
For some reason last week I went through it again. This time I carefully looked at the items inside. Her sunglasses, lipstick case and wallet. She had a small change purse and inside I found a surprise. Meg didn’t wear much jewelry. Just her wedding ring and occasionally earrings.
When we would go to lunch I would take the paper cover from a beverage straw and twist it and then make it into a ring. She would jokingly wear it around for the rest of the day. Well inside her change purse I found a handful of those paper rings I made her and she saved over the years.
Just a little gesture of love she must have felt worth keeping.
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