64 Myths About Grief That Just Need To STOP

Grief myths . . . they drive me crazy.  There are just so many of them, they come out in so many ways, and they make our grief so much more difficult.  Friends and family have unrealistic expectations about what our grief will look like because of these myths.  Heck, sometimes WE have unrealistic expectations because of these myths.  So today we are setting out to dispel the myths in one of our favorite types of post – a 64-things post!  64 myths about grief, to be exact.

In writing this post I had already come up with several dozen myths when I asked our fantastic readers on facebook for their two cents.  Within a couple of hours there were well over 100 more myths.  So, needless to say, this list is not exhaustive.  As a side note, many facebook fans noted things that were not exactly myths, but rather things that are NOT helpful to say to a griever.  We have a list of what not to say to someone grieving, so feel free to check that out too, and of course check out the illustrated version.

Disclaimer: what makes many of the things on this list myths is that they are not universally true.  This does not mean they are never true.  This is a very very important distinction, so keep it in mind as you read. Also, there are some common themes with these myths so, where applicable, I have clustered the myths by theme if it made sense to do so.

Okay, as Eleanor would say, let’s dive in! You’ll notice many of these are linked to articles that go in depth about the myth, so make sure to click the hyperlinks if you want to learn more.

1. Grief has an endpoint.

Sorry friends, grief is forever.  This isn’t a bad thing, though!  It just means that when we lose something we loved deeply, that loss will be with us in some way forever.  Grief may feel different or become more manageable, but it will always be there and that’s okay.  Too bad people often make us feel like we should have reached the “end” of our grief.

2. Once you are done grieving, life  will return to “normal”.

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3. There is a consistent and predictable timeline for grief.

4. The first year is the worst.

5. Time heals all wounds.

time heals all wounds rose kennedy

6. You recover from grief like you recover from a cold, it gets a little better every day until it completely goes away.

Nope, not true either.  There are ups and downs, good days and bad days, good months and bad months.  No matter how much we wish it was, grief isn’t a straight line and the end point isn’t “all better”.

7.  If you are still talking about your loved one after ____ years it means you’re “stuck”.

8. If you still display photos of your loved one after ____ years it means you’re “stuck”.

9. If you haven’t gotten rid of your loved one’s belongings after ____years it means you’re “stuck”.

10.  If you still cry when you think/talk about your loved one after ____ years it means you’re “stuck”.

11. Women grieve more than men.

12. Men don’t want to talk about their grief.

13. You can only grieve a death.

14. You can’t grieve something you never had.

You can obviously click the link to learn more about this, but here is the gist because this one can sound a little confusing: we grieve things we never had all the time.  If I always thought I would have children, then learn I can’t get pregnant, that is a loss I will grieve.  If I always imagined my future would look a certain way and it doesn’t, I grieve what I imagined it would be.  You get the idea.

15. Your friends and family will always be the best support.

16.  Someone who experienced the same type of loss will definitely be supportive and understand what you’re going through.

Eeek, this one gets people into trouble A LOT.  Just because someone also lost a child, a spouse, a parent, a pet, whatever, it doesn’t mean your experiences will be the same.  Heck, they may not even be similar.  Sometimes people with similar losses end up being your best support, sometimes it is someone with a totally different kind of loss who you connect with.  You just never know.

17.  Grief follows a similar path and timeline for everyone.

18.  If you aren’t crying, then you aren’t grieving.

Some of us aren’t criers, get over.  It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with us.

19.  If you aren’t following “The 5 Stages of Grief” it is a problem.

MANY people don’t follow the 5 stages.  If they do, it is often not in order, they may skip steps, repeat steps, you get the idea.  This is just one theory about grief among many theories – you aren’t grieving wrong if your grief doesn’t fit in this box.

20.  The only grief theory is Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ 5 Stages because everyone knows it’s accurate.

21.  Grieving is a problem.

Nope, it is a natural reaction to loss.  We all, sadly, go through it.  Just because something is painful doesn’t mean we should avoid or ignore it.

22. The goal of grief is to “move on”.

23. The goal of grief is to “get over it”.
get over your grief

24. The goal of grief is to “find closure”.

Ah, they myth of closure, moving on, and getting over it.  Didn’t we mention from the get go that there is no endpoint?  We never tie up our grief with a nice little bow and move on.   That just isn’t how it works.  What we do is learn to carry it with us in meaningful and healthy ways.  We use it to continue a connection with the person we loved, while moving forward.

25. Certain types of loss are inherently “better” or “worse” than other types of loss.

26. Young children don’t grieve.

27. Children should not attend funerals.

28. Children are resilient, you don’t need to worry about them.

The good news, children certainly can be very resilient.  They myth?  That is doesn’t take effort, work, or support.  I once heard someone (I wish I could remember who . . . leave a comment if you know the source of this!) compare resiliency in children to children’s ability to learn a language.  It is much easier for children to learn languages than adults, but this does not mean they will learn a language if we don’t teach, coach and support them.  I have always liked this analogy.  Research shows us that childhood trauma can impact us through adulthood in countless ways, psychological and physical.  We need to give children the appropriate time, attention and tools to cultivate that resiliency. 

29.  Not having a funeral will hinder your ability to grieve or “find closure”.

30.  You grieve less when you know in advance someone is going to die.

31. You grieve less when the person who died is older and “lived a long life”.


32. Your grief is easier when someone was suffering, because you are relieved they aren’t suffering anymore.

33. When someone dies by suicide it is their own fault or they were “selfish”.

34. When someone has a miscarriage, it was likely brought on by not taking care of themselves, stress, taking birth control, lifting something heavy, or some other ridiculous myth.

35. People don’t grieve after a miscarriage in the same way they grieve other deaths.

36. If something helped another grieving person, it will help you.

37. If something helped you while you were grieving, it will be helpful to most other people who are grieving.

38. Keeping a journal always helps.

39. Going to therapy or a support group is always helpful.

40. Art therapy always help, music therapy always help, etc.

41. You can get a prescription that will help your grief.

Nope, but wouldn’t that be nice if there was a magic pill to cure our grief?  Now, it is true that grief can exacerbate other underlying mental health conditions, like depression and anxiety.  Those are things that absolutely can be treated with medication.  It is important if you are struggling to see a professional.

42.  Once you get through all the “firsts” (first anniversary, birthday, holiday season) they will get easier and easier.
just not even a little bit true

43. Grieving and mourning are the same thing.

44. Just because someone looks okay when they are grieving it means they feel okay.

45. When you lose a spouse, if you haven’t started dating after _____ years it means you’re stuck.

46. After losing a spouse you need to start dating in order to “move on”.

47. After the death of a child, having another child lessens your grief.

48.  Being reminded that your loved one “wouldn’t want you to be sad” is helpful.
please dont talk anymore

49. The best thing you can do is say something comforting, positive, or optimistic to a griever.

50. Grief is the same as sadness.

Don’t get me wrong, sadness is part of grief, but grief and sadness are not the same thing.  Grief is so much more than sadness, for so many reasons.

51. Grief is the same as depression.

52. Grief is a single emotion.

53. Once someone dies, you can no longer have a relationship with them.

54.  When someone dies you will always feel their presence if you are attuned to it.

55.  If you have faith in God it will lessen your grief.

56. Grief is, ultimately, always a transformative and positive experience that will eventually make you a better person.

Okay, this one is not me being a negative Nancy.  Sometimes grief really is positive and transformative and we can reflect on all the ways it has made us a better person.  That is a wonderful and amazing thing when it happens.    That said, not everyone finds or embraces transformation in grief.

57. You cannot grieve someone who is still alive.

58. People like faith leaders, teachers, doctors and counselors all have training in grief and understand what you’re going through.

Ahhh how we wish this were true.  Sadly, many professions listed above require NO formal training in grief!  None.  Zero. Zip.  Doctors?  Nope, not required. Counselors?  Unless they are specializing in grief, usually not required for them either.  Scary, we know!

59.  If you avoid grief and keep a stiff upper lip, it will eventually go away.

60.  If a widow or widower has photographs of their late husband or wife up around the house it means they aren’t ready to get involved in a new relationship.

61.  When kids are involved, it’s important to stay strong and focus all your attention on their grief.

62.  God never gives us more than we can handle


63.  After a death, you will always feel a rush of strong emotions.  

64.  Eventually you will stop noticing and/or being affected by grief triggers.

If you haven’t had enough of this topic, check out our podcast on grief misconceptions:

Alright, we did our best to shoehorn a lot of the common myths in this list, but we know we missed some.  Leave a comment below to keep the list going with your contributions!  And even if you never share any of our posts ever, consider sharing this one.  Because if we as grievers and grief professionals don’t squash some of these myths, who will??

March 28, 2017

45 responses on "64 Myths About Grief That Just Need To STOP"

  1. This site has helped so much. My husband died at age 51 of pancreatic cancer two & a half years after his diagnosis on December 15, 2017. He was diagnosed a couple months after then end of a murder trial for my dear cousin who was the family member I was closest to. I gave the Victims Impact Statement at the trial. He was terminal at diagnosis. We’ve lost someone we care about nearly every year for 10 years, it’s been awful, but my kids and I are surviving. One myth is that all deaths impact you the same- not only do they vary because of your relationship with the person who died, but the type of death impacts you differently. We’ve lost people to illness, murder and suicide and they all come with different emotions and different impact. We’re having my husband’s memorial service a week from now and I’m dreading the insensitive comments. One I’ve received often is “you’re so strong “. Actually I’m not at all, and I don’t like feeling pressure to be strong, it’s just that you don’t see me when I’m falling apart- I tend not go out in public on those days!

  2. Thank you for all the work you do giving voice to what it means to live with grief and loss. I hope that not only people who are grieving take the time to read articles like this, but also those who have not yet experienced a profound loss. It seems like grief and death aren’t topics that we take time to read about, educate ourselves about and really understand until we have no choice but to face them because they have shown up in our lives… no more time to wait, no escape. I know that was the case for me. I hope that one day we can talk so openly and candidly about grief and death everywhere and with everyone that most of these myths will cease to exist. More understanding and compassion from people who are not grieving does not make my loss any less painful – nothing will; it just is what it is. But it does lessen the feelings of isolation, alienation, guilt and shame, which can make the pain of loss even more difficult to bear.

    My soulmate, my husband, died on January 29, 2017 at the age of 34. There is never not a moment in my day when I am not acutely aware that he is not here. My thoughts are always connected to my husband and grief in some way… it’s difficult to articulate this to people who aren’t grieving. I can’t really say that the insensity of my heartache has decreased at all. My husband was my world, and now this grief is my world… although I am trying to take steps now to see that there may be more to me and my life.

    A myth from my experience: When you are silent or are not actively reaching out for help that means you are okay, want to be left alone, and don’t need help.
    – Sometimes when my brain feels like it is going crazy with despair I have no idea what to do, or who to call, or what to say. There have been so many times when I have stared at my cell phone for hours with the complete inability to compose a text message. My insides are screaming too loud. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want to see or talk to people.
    – Sometimes I am just too exhausted to reach out. I am so tired. I wish that people would reach in instead of waiting for me to reach out and tell them what to do.

    Thanks again for this articles and this site.

  3. I grieved the loss of my husband more before he died as he was in a nursing home for several years and became rather hateful. His personality changed because of his illness and he accused me of things I never would have done! I don’t say much about it to anyone as most would deny that is possible but it was almost like a relief! What I missed was the fun and good life we had before his mind became clouded and I had to fight with doctors and nursing homes to get the care he needed! Si don’t feel like there is something wrong with you, if that’s the way it happens for you!!

  4. #62 God never gives us more than we can handle
    The comic made me laugh – thank you.
    I haven’t laughed in a while & I always feel better for it.
    My children were 4, 6 & 7 when my husband died. It astounds me that people hold this belief. My family still being clothed & feed proves it to them – in their minds…. It really is comical.
    My sense of humour has become quite black & it helps me get through the day.

  5. the mind, stress and loves and family member too work employed concerns over losses and structure ,
    worth and government control ,////???!!!!!!., where,what,why thanks you,.

  6. One of the lessons I incorporate into a session deals with your #48 point. The reality is that no one who you have loved and who loved you would want you to be sad over their passing. When mourners actually come to that realization, it seems to alleviate some of their pain. I agree, just telling someone that is NOT helpful. Helping them to realize that through grief work I believe is helpful.

  7. “Just quit dwelling on it”

  8. I’ve learned that losing a parent is so much different then losing a child. My mom passed 25 yrsago this past June 19th we buried my daughters ashes with my mom on that date she passed 5 months ago . When my mom passed I thought I would never get through a day without her she was my best friend but in time things went back to day to day living but now with my daughter gone there hasn’t been a day that I can get through without thinking of her and crying trying to deal without her being here talking to me or laughing with me. Raising her two children lucas who turned 16 the day after she passed and emily who is 12 is a blessing in disguise. Emily is a spitting image of her Mom so I think God sent them to us for a reason because Kelli knew we would raise them like she would of. I will never ever get over losing her she was the best part of me. There will never be back to normal. What’s normal after losing a child? NOT A THING . Things will never be easier as long as she is not here maybe once I’m reunited with my darling daughter things will get easier .

  9. Going to work will make you feel better, take your mind off things. Going to work made me WORSE

  10. This site is fantastic, thank you for it.
    As someone who experienced a bunch of student deaths in high school the worst one, especially perpetuated by adults talking to youth, is that talking about grief will only make things worse, or drag it out, or create copycats when it comes to suicide. It still bothers we when I see schools not deal with a death in the school community openly. It’s been almost ten years and we’re much more open about mental health now, why are we not more open about death and grief?

    • Ah, this is so true Tori. Change is, sadly, slow. There is more education that is starting to happen for teachers and school administrators so I am hoping this will slowly change. I am so sorry for what you have had to cope with and glad you found our little corner of the internet!

  11. I lost my brother 4 months ago at age 43 of a heart attack. I’ve struggled with responses of “why do you think you’re taking this so hard” and “at least he didn’t have children”.

  12. Thank you. My sister thinks my mom and I need to get over my brother’s passing. It’s been 50 days. ?

  13. I am so glad that I saw this post. A majority of the myths posted have been said to me and it just made me want to scream. I don’t understand how people seem to think losing your fiancee isn’t as devastating as losing a spouse, parent or child. I suddenly found myself being a caregiver to my fiancee and within a very short time losing him to cancer. It’s barely been two months since he’s passed away and even my family seems I should be past it by now. If anyone who reads this could share how to handle insensitive people (suggestions as to what to say) I would appreciate it.

  14. Expressing your emotions or flowing tears is a sign of weakness. I feel it is the absolute opposite. Being vulnerable and authentic whether alone or in front of people take a great deal of courage. Brené Brown Ph.D. has made that point with her research and in her books.

  15. I was working as a therapist intern when my son died suddenly in a car accident. I had my licensed therapist supervisor ask me at about three months if I had “found my ‘new normal’ yet?” I had no idea how to respond. Of course I hadn’t! The world stopped turning. Even now, coming up on two years On September 29th, I can’t say I have found this (or if a “new normal” exists at all).

    • Wow, Anastacia that story is both terrible and terrifying! I am so sorry for the unimaginable loss of your son. It is staggering that a therapist could have said something like that- still so much education to be done!

  16. My wife died on April 10, 2016. I have been an emotional basket case since then and only recently have I been able to eat at all. I am on the fence about the different kinds of loss. I agree now it does not help anyone to compare. But when I first went to a grief group I was mad because no one else had lost a spouse. And my wife died completely unexpectedly. She was happy as can be one day and the next morning she had a seizure and died. I found her naked body in a sleep clinic bathroom where she was having sleep test to find out why she was having trouble staying asleep.
    For me it is harder for losing my spouse suddenly than any other loss I have experienced. My best friend died of cancer in 2013 after a year long battle. My father died when I was a child. Nothing, for me, even compares to the loss of my spouse. She was everything to me. I lived to make her happy and for our marriage to work. Was that healthy? I don’t know, but it is a fact. So for me, losing my spouse has caused me to lose my reason to live. No other loss I have experienced made me feel like this. So even though there is a debate here on this topic, I do feel there is different levels of loss. Losing your spouse for me with having the kind of terrific happy deeply in love relationship my wife and I had is a very personal and deeply complete heartbreaking loss.

    • Marc, we fully agree that some losses are experienced more deeply than others. What is important is that there are no universals. We have had grievers who all lost a lost a parent, a spouse, and a child and who each experienced a different one as the “worst”. So much depends on each person’s relationship with the person who died, the moment in their life, the secondary losses, and countless other factors. So though each person can compare their own losses to one another, comparing losses between people is where things get complicated. You just never know what someone else is going through.

    • Hi Marc, I am so sorry for the loss of your wife. My husband died of cancer in Nov 2016, and for me, it’s certainly the worst loss I’ve ever experienced. I hope you have good supports.

  17. I loved this article and want to comment on several points. 14.cant grieve something you never had-I had a beautiful full term daughter only to find out she was severely disabled. Did I love her less? Absolutely not! But you better believe I grieved the baby I expected and never got! 30 & 32-you grieve less when you know in advance & it’s easier when they have suffered-we had to watch this same daughter’s health fail for 1 1/2 years before she passed. It is NOT easier when you know in advance or if they have suffered! Anyone who thinks that has apparently not watched someone slowly dying over a long span of time. 57-can’t grieve someone still living- you think we weren’t already grieving the loss of her during that 1 1/2 years?! We absolutely were already grieving and passing through some of those famous “stages of grief” before she was ever gone. And 16 & 39 go hand in hand in our case. We did go to a support group just for parents who had lost children. Our daughter lived 23 years. We took care of her every day of her life. Some of those other parents who had lost younger children were resentful towards us because we were lucky enough to have our daughter longer. It was not helpful, it was hurtful. We never went back.
    I had the misconception that grief was something you endured and eventually at some point passed through. Now, since our daughter died a year ago, I know, you never finish or pass through your grief. I have felt like I not only lost my daughter but my own identity as well.

  18. To all of you who have lost someone that you loved, I am so sorry for your loss! My mom died nearly 16 years ago from ovarian cancer. She fought the good fight. She was our shining light all the while we were growing up! Even as adults, she was our soft place to falI, our loving comfort. I miss her every single day. She was the first one to show us God’s love. If one cannot think of anything to say to a person who has had a death of a loved one, just say “I am sorry for your loss”. That is ALL. I think people want to say more, thinking it will help and comfort. They don’t even realize what they’re saying!

  19. It’s been almost 4 years that we lost a 24 year old family member who had two children of his on and our family has not been the same and never will, the same year we also lost both of our grandmothers at the age of 92. They both lived long lives and my grandmother Wina said she was ready to go to Heaven so I think of her as my sweet little angel looking over us. I will never get over losing Bradley because he was so young and had so much to live for!!! Sometimes I can laugh thinking about him but most of the time I still lose it and ball like a baby! Bradley Marc Smith we miss you so much and one day I will see you again, I believe this with all my heart!!! Xoxo

  20. I just found this site today after almost 15 months in from my husband’s sudden death. I wish I had found it sooner. Thank you so much for putting this together.

  21. Losing a sibling. Spouse. Relative. Friend. Cannot be compared to losing a child either so please don’t say that to me.
    How about just don’t compare anyone’s grief at all !
    Regardless of who died.

    The death of a child is the worse loss a person can suffer.

    To say that is to state my pain is bearable. My loss less devastating. No, it isn’t.

  22. “It’s all part of God’s Plan.” Can you believe someone said this to me after my beautiful 20 year old son took his own life? Who’s God is this? This same person also said, “He just didn’t want to disappoint anyone”. People are better off just not talking sometimes.

  23. Don’t worry, “she is with you always, she knows what you’re doing, how you’re feeling”. Yes I will alway hold my daughter in my heart, ALWAYS… but she is NOT WITH ME, not physically, and that is what I want, when I say I miss her and hate that she is not here doing whatever with us, I mean she is not with us physically! Just listen to me and let me feel that!! You just don’t know what it’s like. “Signs” are good, and bring some comfort, but sometimes/ most times, they are just not enough… Thanks for listening and understanding.

  24. I was the opposite; I DID want someone somewhere to say they “can’t imagine it” bc nobody anywhere would say they DIDN’T know what it was like. Every person in the country that I met and mentioned it to immediately assumed they felt the way we did when we were watching it happen just bc they ALSO watched what was happening on September 11 happen. So when someone finally said they can’t imagine what it was like for us to go through it I practically glommed onto their words with overwhelming gratitude.
    And it only took almost 10 years to find someone who said it. I didn’t care. I was just glad someone somewhere didn’t “already know” what we felt as we watched it happening.

  25. Also…..

    Those who grieve want to get better.
    Those who grieve are not, not healing due to self pity, but due to the fact that they love someone so much that the loss is unbearable.
    We survive each day
    We usually don’t heal of any type of grief.
    Going through it
    Due to loss of child.

    What we do seek.is support, love. Outreach, kindness, hugs, a listening ear, non judgmental people , and just saying “sorry”
    Please don’t say….I can’t imagine !
    We don’t want you to imagine.
    We don’t want others to have or feel this pain
    Just acknowledge it by saying I’m so sorry and meaning it!

    • I so agree with everything you have said. Lost our son Sept, 30, 2015. I still cry everyday. One person grabbed me and said, it is God’s will. What??? A mean God, took away our dear son so he can’t see his children grow up and be with his wife and us?? Makes so sense to us. We will always miss him. ALWAYS.

      • It is so unfortunate that in an effort to say something “comforting” people so often say the absolute wrong thing! I am so sorry for the loss of your son and so glad you found our site

  26. More grieving myths…..

    They are in a better place now….


    Who would you like to go to a better place right now ?
    The better place for my child is right here with me….

    Another myth

    Get on with your life. That’s what they want

    I am getting on with my life but I will probably still always grieve the loss of my child…….thanks

    Yet another myth

    I know how you feel!
    Ummmm. Really ?
    No you don’t
    You haven’t even asked me how I feel AND you’ve never lost a child either !

    Losing a sibling. Spouse. Relative. Friend. Cannot be compared to losing a child either so please don’t say that to me.
    How about just don’t compare anyone’s grief at all !
    Regardless of who died.

    • So agree that “they are in a better place” is just the worst! How can being dead be a better place?!

  27. “It’s okay because he’s in heaven now.”

  28. Another myth, moving into a relationship after loosing a spouse means you are dismissive of your deceased loved one, or that you are over it or finished grieving, or that the loss isn’t there, or the loved one will be forgotten. The loss becomes part of the new relationship so it’s crucial for a new mate to understand this, have compassion for it, and be accepting of this, and the new mate must realize that having love for a lost loved one does not mean less love for them.

  29. I know my son is “moving ” well but also know he’s still grieving after the sudden loss of
    his wife. I also greive for him, as well as her, although I never knew her as well as I might have maybe we had lived less than 3000 miles apart.

  30. We put our 14 year old Lab down just 8 weeks ago. Someone asked me the other day if I didn’t think “that maybe you should see somebody” because I started crying at my desk at work (someone had just sent me a picture of a puppy in an email and I just wasn’t ready for it). It’s only been 2 months people! He was a daily presence for more than 170 months and my heart is broken.

  31. It is so true that stages of grief don’t always happen in a particular order or don’t come back. When my mom passed away five years ago, I went through various emotions and so forth, then it all seemed to settle down. Around the two-year mark, though, I found myself in tears whenever I thought of my mother. I was so surprised when this happened. I didn’t expect it at all.

    And I well remember when my uncle suddenly and unexpectedly died. My aunt was in shock/denial for a very long time. She didn’t get to the “anger” phase until two years after his death, and took it out on everyone. Not fun at all.

  32. Another myth: you’ll feel better if you do something for someone else; go do some volunteer work and help someone who is less fortunate than yourself.

  33. They told me that about mine, that he “only suffered a few minutes or not at all.” So that somehow makes it better?
    He died in the World Trade Center in a fire that wasn’t supposed to be started. How the hell is saying “He only suffered a few minutes and not months” like THEIR relative did, supposed to make me feel f’n better? I don’t care if he suffered for one second bc he died by intentional violence of other “human beings.” I don’t care if he only suffered a nanosecond. Sorry but that one got on my nerves when she said it, especially since bringing up her own relative made it feel like a comparison of pain and that hers was worse. Which I’ll never know bc I’ll never know whether the pain of one person is worse than another. When we work in Emergency Medicine we don’t compare the pain in one patient’s broken bone to that in another. Why do they do it with emotional pain?

  34. There is no timeline, there is no minimum age, there is no “back to normal”. Normal before a loved one dies and whatever normal becomes once they’re gone are too different normal. Anniversaries and birthdays will always hurt and there’s nothing wrong with that. a 9 year old and a 65 year old are equally capable of feeling loss.
    They say there are 5 stages, but they aren’t nearly as neat and orderly as they are described in textbooks and self-help books. I hit denial, bargaining, and anger pretty much at the same time, and before he was even dead I might add.

    Some of these however, I’ve actually found to be true in my case.

    Not having a funeral, or more accurately not having the opportunity to attend it HAS in fact hindered my ability to find the level of closure that everyone else who knew this person seems to have found.

    The “it’s easier when they were older” is one that I have found true on the flip side of the coin. It was more difficult because my friend was so young.

    I think I just might slap anyone who claims a prescription would help. Or I’d sarcastically say “You mean there are pills I can take that will allow me to bring someone I love back from the dead? Gimme! Gimme!”

  35. I love your sticks figures, even in my tears they make me laugh out loud.
    Thank you kindly for your help,

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