Here are a few things I do well…
1. Remember the words to songs
2. Make children laugh
4. Take photo’s
Here are a few things I do not do well…
1. Pay attention to detail
2. Finish things
4. Arts and crafts
I should carry this list everywhere I go to remind me of my short commings. I should pull this list out every time I find myself standing in front of the sliding glass doors of Michaels Arts and Crafts. I should ask the craft store workers to hang my picture next to the OSHA poster in their break room with the caption ‘do not sell this woman adhesives of any kind’. I should have my own feature on Pinstrosity.com.
I should not be allowed to attempt arts and crafts of any kind.
There are other things I’m horrible at, like cooking and baking, but I’ve accepted my limitations in these areas. It’s just crafting….when it comes to crafting….for some reason I just can’t stop trying. This is important context for the following post which was mean to be a “how-to” on making your own unique and personalized grief journal. Instead you will have to settle for a lesson ‘how-not-to’.
One note, please don’t let my short comings dissuade you from attempting this yourself. There are a thousand ways to create and customize your journal and many of these are easy to do given a minor amount of planning and patience. Also, provided you don’t have 3 and 5 year olds trying to Modge Podge your personal artifacts to their heads. In truth, if you stick with this post you’ll see, once I learned from my initial mistakes I ended up with something fairly decent.
Lesson 1: Plan ahead
A quick search on Google or Pinterest will bring you a mind boggling number of results on customizing and making journals. Any reasonable person would take the time to search the internet and come up with a vague blueprint for their creation. Only an impulsive person would head straight for Target and frantically pinball from aisle to aisle throwing notebooks and paperclips and scrapbooking supplies in their cart. Here are the supplies I ultimatley came home with…my husband was not thrilled.
(NOT PICTURED: markers, file tabs, and scissors….and yes, that’s three different types of adhesives)
Lesson 2: Understand Your Supplies
I didn’t quite know what I needed so I bought everything that looked useful. I wasn’t even sure what a few of these things were. For example, I’d never used Modge Podge before, I just felt I understood it’s glue-like properties because one time I saw my college Modge Podge a chair.
I was wrong.
Minus another 10 points: I bought the glittery kind.
Here are the results of my adventures in Modge Podgeing…
I’m not sure this accurately conveys what a mess this was…it was way worse.
Here’s another example, I probably shouldn’t have picked the ‘Sizzling Steakhouse’ edition of Baltimore Magazine for my magazine cutouts. I don’t find steak particularly inspiring, in fact I’m a vegetarian.
Lesson 3: Unless your children are old enough to work independently, resist the urge to make this a family affair.
I decided I didn’t want to use two of my four notebooks so I gave them to my daughters. This set off a flurry of excitement about decorating their own journals and ended in nerve grinding frustration when my hands were too covered in glue to help them when their fine motor skills failed.
That being said, this is a great activity to do with your child when you’re able to focus on helping them. Plan ahead and gather photos, words, and decorations that are meaningful to them. As your working, talk about the different items. Let them know the journal is their special place to draw pictures and write things down (if their old enough). Tell them you would love to see whats in their journal from time to time.
Here is a picture of the journal my daughter made (without my help)…
Lesson 4: When all else fails, start over
In the end I had to start over, so I guess it’s good I bought all those supplies. Down to one last notebook I took a deep breath, walked away from the chaos, and made a plan.
This time I decided to accept my artistic limitations and focus on creating a journal that will help foster creative and thoughtful writing…isn’t that the point? Yeah yeah…I guess so.
Fortunately my remaining journal had a nice moleskin cover in my favorite color. I decided to leave the customization to a minimum, but sprinkle a few prompts throughout; this way when I can’t think of anything to journal about I can turn to a prompt. I marked the prompts with file tabs for easy access. Some of the prompts are related to emotion and grief…I was so mad when…a memory of my mother…write about the last thing that scared you..write about visiting a place where you feel close to mom…and some are more general…my favorite words…write a story about this picture.
I would hardly call it a true DIY journal, because basically it’s not; but I have to say I’m pretty happy with my end result. I hope all you non crafters out there see making a journal personal is not so hard when you simplify the plan, and I hope all you crafty crafters out there find elaborate ways to put me to shame.
Bottom line I believe journaling is a great way to process and explore feelings and emotions and I encourage you to do it whether in a customized journal, an old notebook, or on a napkin.
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