If you read ‘What’s Your Grief’ with any regularity, you probably know that we usually dedicate Friday’s post to our ‘Friday Favorites’. I’m sorry if you came here looking for your weekly fix of grief related articles, but frankly I don’t feel like writing that post. There’s a different post I feel compelled to write and I hope you will take a few minutes to read it.
Litsa and I make a big deal about the concept of ‘gratitude’ and its capacity to offer perspective in even the worst of life’s hardships. When it feels like a tornado has ripped through your life, there is something hopeful and empowering about slowing down, looking at the wreckage, and taking stock of what is still standing. So, when life gets us down, we try to be grateful. Sometimes we do a good job…
And sometimes we’re kind of terrible… but we try.
I had a sad night last night. I know it’s starting to seem like I’m perpetually sad, but honestly this has just been bad winter. I expect to make a full recovery as soon as the sun starts staying up past 6pm. Anyway, as I’m oft known to do when I’m down, I spent the evening watching TV and clicking through nonsense on the Internet.
Somewhere about 57 webpages into my hapless meandering, I happened upon a comment by some anonymous being saying the blog they’ve found most helpful in their grief is ‘What’s Your Grief’. My small heart grew three sizes in that moment and I immediately felt, you guessed it, grateful. I sat back and thought how much I wished I could find words to express to you, our readers, just how humbled we are that you have opened your broken hearts to us so that we might have the opportunity to help.
When Litsa and I started this blog, we had no money (still don’t) and very little know-how, but we had a hunch that we could approach grief in a way and with a style that was unique to us. We hoped people would respond, but we had no idea if they would. Many days we thought:
We’re kind of weird
Maybe a few people will read – that’s enough.
We never dreamed we’d receive the amount of support we have. Your comments and words of encouragement mean everything to us. We revel in every acknowledgement we receive; not because we are hungry for praise, but because it means maybe we’ve made someone’s burden an ounce lighter. Since the very beginning, not a day has gone by that we haven’t been grateful for every page view, every comment, and every ‘like’ because behind them is the hope that grievers are finding their way out of the darkness.
I never understood the impact that writing this blog would have on me. I never imagined I’d be set upon my own journey where I would learn many lessons and find greater peace and understanding for my own personal grief. I am not the same person I was when Litsa and I started this blog a year ago and I am so extremely grateful for that. My eyes have been opened to things I had never previously seen and I have felt love and connection with complete strangers.
Anyway, I just wanted to take this opportunity to express a simple thank you because today I am grateful for you.