I’m the oldest grandchild. My children are the oldest AND the youngest great-grandchildren in the family. Well…my son is the second youngest, but he is the youngest great-grandchild my Papa was able to enjoy playing with everyday.
Papa started this tradition of drinking the coffee creamers at restaurants with me when I was a baby, so when my son did this on Monday all I could think about was how much my Papa #WouldHaveLovedThis.
It’s been exactly 6 months today since my Papa died. Overall, the last 6 months of my life have been a nightmare. I ended up losing my Aunt to an overdose 2.5 months after my Papa died. Most of the time my mind and heart are focused on all that was lost when they died, but every now and then I’ll have a beautiful moment that reminds me of my blessings. I had to share this blessing with you guys.
Remembering our loved ones isn’t just about remembering the things we know they loved or the things that were part of their lives. Part of continuing bonds with our loved ones is integrating their memory into the life we live today.
Remembering doesn’t have to be only about the past, but about connecting our loved one to the present. It can be about remembering them in the context of new things — things they never saw, but things you wish they could have seen and known. Sounds sad, I know. But I promise it can actually be really great and comforting.
Next time you find yourself saying, “My loved one would have loved this,” stop and take a picture. If you like, share it on social media and use the hashtag #wouldhavelovedthis. Even better, submit it to PhotoGrief.
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