Some of you may have noticed, most of you probably didn’t, that we skipped our annual anniversary/state-of-the-blog/thanks-for-your-support/request-for-donations post in mid-December. We always write this post around December 15th, because this is the date when we published our first article back in 2012. I hope you’ll believe I’m not fishing for sympathy or affirmation when I say that we weren’t feeling terribly deserving of a celebration in mid-December for a myriad of reasons. So we quietly turned 5 and for the most part, we decided to leave it at that, save for this brief post that we hope you’ll take a few minutes to read.
First of all, we’d like to say thank you to all of our readers. Five years ago we were averaging about 50 readers a day and most of those readers were related to us. We have no doubt that much of our growth over the last few years can be attributed to the fact that you all have shared our articles via word-of-mouth, email, and social media. Thank you also to those of you who have offered us encouragement and positive/constructive feedback over the years. This website is a labor of love, but it’s also a money pit. Sorry if it’s crass to mention money, but we want you to know that in many ways this website continues to exist only because of your support and good vibes. Finally, thank you for your willingness to share your experiences and to support your fellow readers. We are humbled by the stories of pain and heartache that are shared on this site every day. Each and every comment is a reminder of just how raw and complex grief is.
Now for 2018…
We publish articles on a weekly basis, so each week we have one shot to offer you something helpful. The reality is that each week we do right by some of you and we fail the rest. We know this because many of you tell us. For example, a handful of you will say to us “This is exactly what I needed” and a handful of you will say “You’re wrong, you don’t know what you’re talking about!”. I’m not going to pretend it isn’t frustrating because in a perfect world we’d love to be helpful to all people all the time, but that’s not possible. We know that only a small percentage of articles will ring true for most people and if we truly believe that individual grief is unique, then it follows that the different types of support individuals will find helpful will be as well.
I will tell you that in 2018 we are unapologetically dedicating ourselves to leaving no stone unturned with regards to the topics we cover. Some topics will broadly resonate and others will not. We invite you to email us or comment below with topic suggestions and questions. We will continue to address many of the topics on this site and we will also add them to our list of potential podcast topics and e-course topics. As we move forward we ask you to respect our attempts to cover a wide range of topics and to join us in honoring and learning from our differences when it comes to grief experiences and coping.
You have our promise that we will approach all grief – yours and everyone else’s – with open and accepting hearts and minds. The longer we work in this field, the less we presume to know about anyone else’s sufferings. Our personal knowledge of your specific ache is extremely limited, so we will never tell you how to grieve. We won’t always have all the answers, but we will always support you in your quest to find your own truth and peace. We will always offer suggestions for coping and we will always try and help our broader society to also have more open and accepting hearts and minds.
In 2018 we will begin in-person training for individuals and professionals who are located in the Baltimore area. Our first in-person session will be held on January 9th. If you live in the area, we encourage you to check out our upcoming events.
If you don’t live in the area but would like to bring us to you, here is information on our training and workshop sessions.
Eleanor and Litsa