Just Hold On…

We want to take a minute (really, this will only take a minute) to remind you to hold on.

Hold on when you’re making the cookie dough or casserole or whatever sentimental recipe you find yourself crying into.

Hold on when you hear that song that reminds you of your loved one.

Hold on when you find yourself thinking, “I wish they were here for this moment so badly it hurts.”

Hold on when you feel like you’re the only sad person in the whole wide world (you’re not).

Hold on during those quiet in-between moments when you feel your loved one’s absence most acutely.

Hold on because you’re going to make it.

Hold on because even though you’re sad, you’re also strong.

Hold on because you’re not the only one.

Hold on because there’s hope that next year will be better.

Hold on because the holidays are almost over.

We want to wish you all a peaceful holiday filled with warm memories and love.  As you make room for friends, family, and faith, be sure to make room for your loved one’s memory as well. You may shed many tears, but remember that your grief is an expression of love and such an expression is never wrong.

December 20, 2017

17 responses on "Just Hold On..."

  1. Your loved one wants you to try to smile. Write in a journal as that might help. When my mother passed away in 1992, I wrote to her in a journal. Sometimes telling her she was good to me and other times letting her know she could have been better. I wrote a song after she passed which helped me with the grief and Lord knows I cannot even recall how it goes now. Do random acts of kindness. Send a donation to a charity in honor of your loved one.

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  3. I just want to tell you that my thoughts and heart are with each one of you as we struggle to get through yet another major holiday. Funny how time just keeps moving. What others don’t realize is that time moves in a different way for us – same amount of hours – but how we get through it and what it means to us – is very very different.

    What I have found to be true is the poignancy of it all. I believe that we watch life slightly more detached because the reality is so different – and while we can find laughter and joy – our definition of what is happiness is far different from those who have been lucky enough not to follow in our footsteps.

    But more importantly, let New Years be a toast to our loved ones – our dear children who touched our lives in such profound ways – and that alone is the celebration we should have. They have shaped our lives in ways we could never imagine. And for that I am grateful.

    So I send you my love and my best wishes for peace during this incredibly crazy time of year.

    And thank you for being a part of the shared journey.

  4. All these celebrity deaths are bringing out the “2016 sucks” tagline. If it was any other year I’d get it. I lost my boyfriend 13 days into 2016. I get upset when I see all these people posting about how 2016 sucks because they lost someone they didn’t know. I find myself getting angry and thinking “If only!”. If 2016 sucks for them it’s a rip your heart out, stomp on it, endless days of sadness and despair 2016 for me. They don’t even understand how monumentally bad 2016 sucks for those of us who lost someone we were so very close to this year. It’s not a good way to end a year but there it is. My holiday rant. I don’t mean to be bitter but I’m guessing I’m not the only one who feels this way. Just needed to put it out there. 🙂

  5. Not finding any Merry or Happy in this season. Not wanting to make others sad so keeping it to myself.

  6. “We want to wish you all a peaceful holiday…” It’s not just “holiday”. It’s Christmas! 🙁

  7. I am trying to hang in there. I think I am doing everything right. You join many who tell me I am strong. I don’t feel strong right now. I usually try to identify as a Widow Warrior fighting onward, but for the last week or two I’ve felt more like a Weary, Weak Widow so tired of being sad.

    • Ah Terri, strong is just making it through the day! It is okay to not be okay sometimes and the holidays are often one of those times that weak and weary inches in. Sometimes it isn’t about fighting, it is about surviving. We know how much strength it takes to put one foot in front of the other and make it through the holiday season. Sending all our good thoughts your way to survive these tough weeks, one moment at a time.

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  9. It’s hard to even remember it’s Christmas. All I know is tomorrow it will be a month ago that the love of my life left me. I don’t know if I am handling this well, whatever that is…

  10. Thank you… my first Christmas with Jeff and each and everything I do reminds me that he isn’t here…. trying to hang in there… trying…………..

  11. Yup, it’s almost over. And hugs really help too. Making plans with the girl squad for a dinner or two out on the town. Thinking positive thoughts for 2017, strength, faith and resilience.

  12. THANK YOU for these reminders .. especially the first few!!

    • Thank you for these reminders. I’m so sad tonight missing my husband so much after 2 years and remembering past Christmas

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