Yay Friday! Articles about grief that we loved. Articles about other stuff that we loved. And some singing to boot!
Ahhhh rumination . . . an old friend I am sure many of us know well. Interesting research on the impact of dwelling. Not much here in the way of how NOT to dwell on negative thoughts, unfortunately. And there is a chance this article may have caused me to ruminate on the devastating impact rumination may be having on me, so don’t say I didn’t warn you. But a great read to build awareness about the impact of our tendency to ruminate.
I was recently telling someone a story from shortly after my sister’s boyfriend died. I pulled up at the 7-11 in the neighborhood where I grew up, saw someone I knew inside, and literally hid in the car until they left. I simply couldn’t face another conversation about how we were doing. Needless to say, I could relate well to K.A. Leddy’s article on ducking public interactions after a death. The “how aaaaaare you”s can get to be just a bit too much to handle!
Sometimes you’re driving around Baltimore, listening to WTMD and you catch the very tail end of a haunting song about a woman dying of cancer. You pull out your phone and try to open your soundhound app in time to figure out what it is, but it is too late — the song is over. So you go home and furiously stalk the song on the internet, typing random lyrics into google. You discover it is a song called Elephant by Jason Isbell (formerly of the Drive By Truckers) and listen to it at least 5 times because something about it is just so heart-wrenching. And when I say “you” I mean “me”. But luckily now I am sharing it with you. If you haven’t heard it, I insist you take a listen (warning: includes some explicit language).
This short story is not even close to new. Though it has been out since I was in elementary school, I had never read it, despite the fact that it is apparently taught in many English classes. Written by Amy Hempel, it keeps with the theme of Elephant -watching a friend who is dying. If I am the last one to this party, I apologize for sharing a story everyone else has read. But I just couldn’t NOT share.
My mind has been known to wander and, needless to say, I have rarely considered that a good thing. When we are grieving our minds tend to wander even more than usual. And though there is plenty of research on the problems of your mind wandering, this article highlights some of the benefit. Ah sweet validation! Check out the person benefits of daydreaming.
We have said around here, at least once or twice, that grief can inspire amazing things. Loved this article about a mother-son team inspired to write a children’s book after the death of their golden retriever. And who’d have thought it would have exploded into a YouTube channel?!
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