Welcome to the first ‘Friday Favorites’ of 2014. I hope you all had a semi-decent New Years Eve and you’re facing the year ahead with semi-optimism (see, if I set the bar low no one will feel disappointed or inadequate). I hope everyone getting dumped on by snow on the East Coast is safe, snug, and warm. Heck I hope you are all safe, snug, and warm regardless of where you. Nothing better than being snug and warm.
Alright here are a few interesting things we saw around the web this week…
To sum up 2013, ‘The Good Therapy Blog’ is compiling lists of the best mental health websites of the year. So far they’ve covered the best websites for Bipolar Disorder, Addiction, PTSD/Trauma, Abuse Survivors, and Parenting. If they stay on pace with last year they should also be covering ADHD, Depression, Relationships and Marriage, Anxiety, and Eating Issues over the next few weeks. Oh and of course Grief and Loss, a list we may or may not endorse depending on whether we’re on it.
We’re serious. Just kidding.
This is interesting – because the mind-body connection is linked to our very drive for survival, a new study suggests that we all have the same bodily sensations associated with our feelings regardless of a culture or language.
As Loehmanns prepares to shut its doors, author Jessica Silvester reflects on childhood memories of shopping in the store with her mother; memories that later turned into mother/daughter tradition. But tradition that, by the time Silvester was old enough to appreciate, her mother was too sick to enjoy.
As a young woman who experienced the death of her mother from terminal illness in her twenties, I felt I could strongly relate to this essay. The author’s desire to show her mother she’s ‘doing okay’, the sadness of engaging in mother/daughter ritual without a mother, the urge to pick up the phone and call before realizing she’s gone – these are all familiar feelings. Check it out and see what you think.
Megan Devine discusses how to survive the first days, weeks, and months after a death. I’m sure we can all agree, the ‘Early Grief’ stages can be full of shock and confusion as we try and navigate life after loss.
For those of you who don’t know what ‘Medium’ is, it’s a place for people who like to write to go and write. I’m sure ‘Medium’ would agree, a more eloquent description of them has ne’er been rendered.
Anyhow, ‘Medium’ is a bit like a blog format but you can go there, write essays or blog posts, and then categorize them into ‘collections’ on different topics. The ‘Bereavement and Mourning’ collection is described as, “Thoughts on grief and loss. Stories and poems. How did you survive your loss? What was helpful is your grief? What have you learned?’ If you want to get lost in the grief reflections of others, check it out.
James Avery, most often remembered (by those who didn’t know him) for his role as Uncle Phil on The Fresh Prince of Bel Air, died last week. And then the children of the 90’s collectively recited the Fresh Prince theme song in tribute.
Emotional rescue – how the Rolling Stones eased my bereavement via The Guardian
I’ve been thinking a lot about the capacity of music to heal. I’ve wasted many a half hour sitting with my car in park listening to music, not wanting to turn off the radio and go back to a life without a soundtrack. But then other times I feel frustrated by music as I realize that songs can’t really save me.
By the way, slight tangent for movie lovers, I just read a review about two new movies, ‘Inside Llewyn Davis’ and ‘The Broken Circle Breakdown’, which, the author asserts, are both about individuals using music in hopes that the song can do more than what it’s really capable of doing. The author eloquently says, “The music holds out hope of clutching hands on the golden shore, but when it stops, we’re still here, bound to ramble.” Right, exactly.
What was I saying? Oh yes, Jane Maher’s post is about how the ‘Rolling Stones’ we’re, in fact, of much help to her in her bereavement in ways she might not have imaged.
Okay, I guess I’ll call it a day because I’m no longer making a lot of sense. Subscribe to receive posts from ‘What’s Your Grief’ straight to your e-mail inbox. It’s the smartest thing you will have done all year.