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Grief and Guilt: “I Can’t Believe I Did That” Edition

When we train physicians, nurses, and other hospital staff on providing good end-of-life care, we always start and end by reminding them of one thing: The care they provide and the interactions they have with families will stay with family

Guilt and Grief: Making A Living Amends

It would be easy to think there is nothing more WYG can write about guilt and grief. We've written about how common guilt is in grief (you wouldn't believe how many people get the "coulda woulda shouldas"). We wrote an

Guilt and Grief During the Holiday Season

I’ve been feeling a little distracted this holiday season.  Maybe a little stressed.  Maybe a little numb.  I’m not feeling it like I want to feel it - not the tingle I sometimes get when I hear the Mormon Tabernacle

Understanding Survivor Guilt

Guilt.  We have talked about it from a lot of different angles around here.  We have talked about the shoulda, woulda, couldas.  We have talked about regret, about guilt after an overdose death, and about how to find self-forgiveness when

Guilt vs Regret in Grief

When it comes to grief, guilt and regret are words that get tossed around pretty regularly.  We all have things we wish we'd done differently, things we wish we had or hadn't said, things we feel terrible about.  This isn't

Guilt and Grief: coping with the shoulda, woulda, couldas

When my dad died I remember well the intense guilt I had in the months that followed.  Though his death didn't fit into one of the categories known for guilt, that didn't stop me from feeling guilty.  I felt guilt

8 Guilt-Free Alternatives to a Funeral

Monday we tackled a reader question about whether it is ‘wrong’ not to have a funeral.  Like with so much in grief, there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, but there are implications that always need to be considered.  It may

What Not To Say Part II: Guilt and Grief

We posted a couple of weeks ago about what not to say to someone who's grieving. The following week, we read a great post on the blog Love, Light, Laughter and Chocolate about the loss of Meghan, a little girl

Setting Holiday Boundaries (even when it’s hard)

Boundaries can be helpful in grief, but they can also just be helpful during the complicated and draining holiday season. Even without grief, the holiday season can prove tough. There is the pressure of things being festive. There's family and